Paddy Tan
3 min readJan 11, 2025

Self-Inflated Ego vs. Healthy Pride in Startups

Sibeh howlian! Beh tahan! (So arrogant! Cannot stand it!)

Let’s face it: the startup world is a rollercoaster of caffeine-fueled dreams and sleepless nights. While a little swagger is essential to navigate this wild ride, there’s a fine line between healthy pride and a self-inflated ego that can derail your startup faster than you can say "pivot."

- Self-Inflated Ego
Imagine a hot air balloon filled with helium and self-importance.

A self-inflated ego involves an exaggerated sense of one's own awesomeness. This person believes they're the protagonist in every story, and everyone else is just a supporting cast.

- Pride
On the flip side, pride is like having a gold star on your report card. It's a well-earned sense of satisfaction from your achievements or your team's accomplishments.

Healthy pride is motivational, leading you to strive for excellence without turning into a self-obsessed lion tamer.

- Self-Inflated Ego
Driven by a desperate need for applause and a trophy collection the size of Mount Everest.

- Pride
Motivated by the joy of team success and the warm fuzzy feeling of shared victories.

- Self-Inflated Ego
Treats feedback like a vampire treats garlic - hisses and backs away.

- Pride
Welcomes feedback with open arms, seeing it as a chance to level up.

- Self-Inflated Ego
Can turn the workplace into a reality TV drama, complete with eye-rolling and backstabbing.

- Pride
Creates a harmonious environment where everyone enjoys working together.

Spotting a self-inflated ego isn't as tricky as it seems. Keep an eye out for these symptoms:

1. Claiming Excessive Credit
Acting like they single-handedly built Rome in a day, while the rest of the team watches in disbelief.

2. Inability to Delegate
Like a toddler with their favorite toy, they can't let go of tasks, believing everyone else's hands are made of pudding.

3. Resistance to Feedback
Treats every suggestion like it's a personal attack from their arch-nemesis.

4. Lack of Empathy
Oblivious to the feelings and perspectives of others, often resulting in more drama than a soap opera.

5. Overconfidence in Decision-Making

Charging ahead with decisions like a bull in a china shop, without consulting anyone.

Keeping your confidence from morphing into a comic book villain ego involves a few simple tricks:

1. Emphasize Team Achievements
Throw team celebrations like confetti at a parade. Recognize everyone's efforts to reinforce the value of collaboration.

2. Encourage Open Communication
Make feedback as common as morning coffee. Open communication fosters a culture of mutual respect and continuous improvement.

3. Practice Self-Reflection
Schedule regular reality checks with yourself. Acknowledge your strengths and areas for improvement to stay grounded.

4. Seek Mentorship
Find a mentor who can keep your feet on the ground (and maybe deflate your balloon a tad). Their wisdom can help maintain a balanced perspective.

5. Promote Empathy
Practice walking in your team members' shoes - metaphorically, of course. Listen and consider their viewpoints to enhance team dynamics and ensure everyone feels valued.

In conclusion, balancing pride and humility is like walking a tightrope: it requires skill, awareness, and sometimes a sprinkle of humor. By recognizing the telltale signs of a self-inflated ego and embracing strategies to foster healthy pride, entrepreneurs can cultivate a positive and productive work environment.

So, let's keep our feet on the ground, our heads out of the clouds, and our startups soaring to new heights with optimism and humility.

Paddy Tan
Paddy Tan

Written by Paddy Tan

I help Startups grow and scale in Southeast Asia. Within 100 days. Growth Strategist | Investor in Startups and SMEs | Scale Startups & Train Founders.

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